Beginner’s Guide to Pegging: Tips, Techniques, and Safety Guidelines

If you're curious about pegging, you're not alone. Regardless of sexual orientation, anal play has become more and more popular for guys in the last few years - and with good reason!

Anal play can be immensely satisfying - and pegging takes anal to the next level. With a real person using a strap-on to penetrate you, you get the kind of intensity that's often hard to find with just a sex toy.

That said, pegging isn't as simple as buying a strap-on and hoping for the best. There's preparation to think about, as well as lots of practical factors you might not immediately think of.

We've put this guide together for people who are considering pegging but want to make sure they're going to get the most from their play. From the benefits of pegging to the preparation and communication involved, we're here to make sure you get the most from your experience - and maybe even manage to achieve the holy grail of pegging - a hyper-intense full-body prostate orgasm.

What is Pegging?

Pegging is a sexual practice that involves someone, usually a woman, anally penetrating a cis male partner using a strap-on dildo. While pegging is often a male/female type of sex play, it can absolutely be enjoyed by same-sex couples too.

Although the idea of a man being penetrated anally has traditionally been a taboo subject, it has recently become a far more popular practice for couples - offering new sensations and stimulation for both the giver and the receiving partner.

The term "pegging" was originally used in the late '90s by author and journalist Dan Savage in America's longest-running sex advice column, Savage Love. He gave a name to the practice, which had been talked about and demonstrated by sexologist and sex educator Carol Queen in her video series called Bend Over Boyfriend.

Since then, pegging has become a mainstream kind of anal play for many couples. In fact, a 2020 survey carried out by a prominent UK sex toy manufacturer said that 10% of women had tried pegging with their partner - and another 10% said they were eager to try it.

For men, there's a lot to enjoy with pegging and anal penetration in general. Importantly, it stimulates the prostate gland, making orgasms even more intense. It also introduces new ideas into a couple's sex life, leading to increased trust and intimacy through role reversal. Pegging can also be an exciting part of BDSM play for people who like to play with different power dynamics in the bedroom.

In 2023, Mashable reported that a major porn company had announced pegging as their Fetish of the Year - proof that a once-taboo subject can become an accepted and stimulating sex act for all to enjoy!

Benefits of Pegging

Pegging and exploring anal play can be hugely stimulating - but pegging isn't just about immediate sexual pleasure.

If you'd like to explore pegging, you might be interested to read about other benefits associated with this kind of anal stimulation.

Tips on How to Prepare for Pegging

If you'd like to try a pegging session, there are some simple steps you should take to make sure you and your partner are fully prepared.

Safety Precautions for Pegging

As with all forms of sexual play, safety is absolutely essential - both for your mutual enjoyment and your health.

Make sure you think about the following factors before you try pegging or anal sex.

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5 Techniques for Successful Pegging

When the time's right to start your pegging experience, there are a few helpful tips that will increase comfort, maximize stimulation, and increase enjoyment for both of you.

1. Experiment with different positions

Experimenting with different positions can enhance pegging experiences and increase the chance of prostate orgasms.

For heightened intimacy, try spooning or the receiver-on-top position. The missionary position, with the receiver's hips raised, allows for deep penetration and eye contact.

Remember, comfort and pleasure should always be your guide when it comes to the choice of position.

2. Understand the anatomy of the anus

Rather than buying a strap-on and hoping for the best, it's useful to understand the anatomy around and inside your anus.

The anal opening is actually two 'sphincter' muscles - tight rings of muscle tissue that expand and contract. You can control the outer sphincter somewhat, but the inner sphincter relies on your body being relaxed for comfortable penetration.

With lubed fingers, you can penetrate your anus - reaching to the front to find the prostate gland. This can help you find the most satisfying position when you begin pegging.

With your fingers or a small toy, it's a good idea to explore and understand your anus - so you know what's going to push your buttons when your partner gets involved.

Diagram of the External and Internal Anal Sphincter Muscles

Source: National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases, National Institutes of Health.

3. Slow and gradual penetration

The idea of sudden, deep penetration is something that seems to work in porn movies - but rarely in real life. Instead, it's a good idea to start penetrating slowly, letting your anus and anal muscles relax into the sensations.

Slow and steady also means the lube you're using won't become displaced - and you can communicate with your partner exactly when you need to.

The idea of fast, deep thrusting might sound appealing - but it's something to work up to and only try when you're confident that you're relaxed and hitting the right spots.

4. Communication during pegging

We've touched on communication throughout this guide - and it's important at every step.

Openly and honestly talking about pegging is important, and you should try to explore feelings, desires, and boundaries.

When playing, the person receiving should verbally guide the speed and depth of the penetration - as well as suggest other positions or techniques. It's also a good idea to express your pleasure levels too - this helps to increase the confidence of the person who is giving.

You might also want to have a safe word that brings your play to an immediate stop. This can prevent any confusion about communication and make sure you both have a clear boundary should you need it.

5. Use a generous amount of lube

Again, lubrication is something we've talked about in previous sections - but its importance cannot be understated. It's always better to use too much lube rather than too little - so be generous when you apply it.

Be sure you know which kind of lube you're using too. Oil-based products are not suitable for internal use as they can be very difficult to clean, which can lead to internal infections. Also, they're not condom safe - so increase the chance of STIs too.

Silicone lube is ultra-slick - but it's not suitable for use with silicone toys, as it degrades the material very quickly. Not only will this ruin your toy - it can also lead to the toy deteriorating inside you.

Always opt for water-based lubricant. Water-based lubes are skin-safe, come in a range of consistencies, and can also include a slight numbing effect, making them perfect for the sensitive anus area. They're also very cost-effective too - so you won't mind using a generous amount!

Pegging FAQ

If you're approaching pegging for the first time, it's absolutely normal to have questions. We've answered some of the most common ones here:

Can pegging be painful for the receiver?

Yes, it's possible that pegging could be uncomfortable for the person who is being anally penetrated. It's important to recognize that pain is your body's way of telling you that something isn't right - so if you experience any pain, you should let your partner know and stop your session.

The first thing to check should always be the lube you're using. The anus can be very tight, so the lube can become displaced. Experiment with adding lube to the toy or directly to your anus to get things just right.

You may also want to change the position you're using. While the doggy style is popular, it can mean deeper penetration. Trying the missionary position or your partner lying behind you can stimulate different areas and reduce the chance of pain.

Ultimately, relaxation is vitally important. Trying to avoid tensing up when being anally penetrated can transform discomfort into incredible enjoyment.

Are there any risks of STI transmission via pegging?

Although it's a slim one - since there's no skin-to-skin contact with pegging - there's still a chance that bacteria or viruses could be passed on if a toy is shared between partners.

To reduce the risk as much as possible, it's a good idea to take the following precautions:

• Talking to your partner about safe sex and possible risks
• Using condoms with toys
• Making sure toys are perfectly clean before and after use
• Have regular STI testing if you or your partner has additional partners
• Using lubricant to prevent any minor wounds that could attract bacteria

Is there a risk for a man to openly excrete (poop) during pegging?

Any kind of anal play comes with a slight worry that the person receiving anal penetration could have an accidental bowel movement. Despite this, the risk is very low - especially if you have prepared properly.

Your rectum only contains stool (poop) when you're ready to have a bowel movement - so it's a good idea to use the bathroom 30-60 minutes before you take part in any anal play.

To further prevent any chance of an accident, the following tips can be helpful:

• Listen to your body. If you feel like you need to use the bathroom while you're playing, stop and take a break.
• Time your anal sex so that it's after a bowel movement - ideally a few hours after, but no less than 30 minutes.
• Use a light anal douche or enema to rinse the rectum before anal play.
• Eating a fiber-rich diet can help your bowels to be clean and regular.

A Beginner's Guide to Pegging: Summary

As you can now hopefully see, pegging can be an amazing experience for both you and your partner.

Pegging gives you the chance to play with different sensations, prostate orgasms, and different power dynamics, and can even enhance the feelings or intimacy in bed or the relationship as a whole. That said, pegging should be done carefully. Hygiene is important - as is awareness of the risks around injury or STIs.

Many people like to get a feel for anal play before moving to pegging. Anal fingering and small toys can be a great first step - relaxing your body and mind ready for a full pegging experience.

As with all kinds of sex, communication, and boundaries are essential. Talking about pegging before, during, and after will help you and your partner to understand what each person enjoys - so you can get the most out of your experience. It also means you can confidently work your way toward those incredible, intense full-body prostate orgasms that everyone deserves to experience in life!