7 Best Sex Toys for Long-Distance Relationships

Around 14 million couples in the US are currently in long-distance relationships, according to market research. These couples are all probably familiar with the numerous ways of engaging in long-distance sex, whether that's through sexting, phone sex, or video chat.

Thanks to modern technology, long-distance sex has undergone quite an evolution in recent years. Smartphones are now ubiquitous, and by combining Bluetooth-enabled toys with cell phone apps, companies have made it so you can now find a wide variety of toys that can be controlled hands-free by someone across the globe.

Since there are so many though, it can be hard to find the perfect sex toy to suit your specific long-distance circumstances - which is why we've put together this guide collating all our favorite long-distance toys in one place.

There's a long-distance toy for everyone's preferences, and here we'll describe the features of those we deem the best before detailing some of the extra considerations you need to make in order to come to a decision.

How We Put Together This List

We put together this guide to the best sex toys for long-distance relationships based on the following criteria:

• Ease of use
• Material quality and durability
• Usability and comfort
• Features
• Long-distance capabilities
• Hygiene

Best Sex Toys for Long Distance Relationships at a Glance

Kiiroo Onyx+ Interactive Virtual Reality Male Masturbator

Overall, we reckon that the best long-distance sex toy on the market right now is the Kiiro Onyx+. It's powerful, well-made, packed with features including VR compatibility, and uses a uniquely pleasurable system of contracting rings to get you off.

The Onyx+ contains a total of 10 rings that contract to stimulate someone stroking your penis. These rings are capable of reaching up to 140 strokes per minute which feels like particularly frantic masturbation. There are also settings before you get to 140 if you're into slightly less frenzied stroking. When it reaches max speed it's not the most discreet toy, but it's still less noisy than some of its predecessors.

This mode is what facilitates long-distance sex. Using Bluetooth and a mobile app, Onyx+ can connect to various toys from Kiiroo, OhMiBod, and Fleshlight, as well as any toys that use FeelTechnology. The way it syncs up to their motion is impressive and really adds that extra something to long-distance play.

While in interactive mode you can also connect the Onyx+ to various kinds of online adult content including VR videos, regular videos, games, as well as webcam performers. As you watch or interact with this content, the Onyx+ will do its best to sync up to the motion on screen. Though it won't always sync 100% accurately, this is easily ignored when you're in the moment.

All of the settings are controlled with the touch-sensitive trackpad on the body of the device. The hard case of the device is built from ABS plastic which feels smooth and premium, and has a soft-touch coating for comfort. Inside the shell, you'll find the Fleshlight-branded SuperSkin sleeve, which is soft, realistic, and quite easy to clean. As it's TPE-based, stick to water-based lube.

Results From Our Testers

• While it's large it's not too heavy, easy to use hands-free
• The contracting rings feel good and also give off a vibrating sensation
• Works very well for long-distance sex, we didn't have any problems with the connectivity
• Syncs up to adult content pretty well, not always super accurate but honestly it gets close enough
• The battery lasts 1 hour which is decent but it takes 4 hours to charge - not a great ratio

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Lovense Edge 2 App Controlled Flexible Vibrating Silicone Prostate Massager

The Lovense Edge 2 is an ergonomically designed prostate massager that uses a rocking neck and dual motors to provide intense stimulation to your prostate. These features, as well as its app connectivity, are why we've given it the title of the best long-distance sex toy for prostate play.

That rocking neck isn't an automatic feature designed for stimulation; it's for comfort and precision, and you need to bend it yourself to adjust the angle. While we had reservations about bending a massager (we didn't want to break it!) it doesn't feel so bad in practice, and it really does allow you to get to the perfect angle to target your prostate. Once it's in position, it stays put where you left it.

The vibrations you get here are strong enough to get you to a great orgasm while lasting long enough to enjoy the ride. Compared to the original Lovense Edge, this toy's batteries last much longer, giving you around an hour of a half of play on average.

The Lovense Edge 2 can connect to any device that's capable of running the Lovense Remote app, which is most iPhones, Androids, Macs, and PCs, as long as they're Bluetooth compatible. Using the app, you can control the settings including the speed and power of the vibration. Your partner can use the app to control your pleasure over long distances. You can also access a database of thousands of patterns as well as being able to sync the toy to music.

This prostate massager is built from soft silicone which, along with the rounded tip, makes insertion quite easy, especially with a bit of water-based lube. It has a handle-style base for safety and is also 100% waterproof. Overall, its features and ease of use make it a great toy for beginners as well as experienced users.

Results From Our Testers

• Bendable neck works well - lets you get specific with the angle, helps you get what you need
• The vibrations get strong but never too much, they feel great
• The perineum massager is a great touch, helps with the overall pleasure
• App control works very well regardless of where the device is being controlled from - perfect for long-distance lovers
• It would've been nice to have an automatic neck function for pressure-based stimulation

Pros and Cons

Kiiroo OhMiBod Lumen Rechargeable Silicone Vibrating Butt Plug

If you're interested in long-distance anal stimulation that isn't all about the prostate, the Kiiroo OhMiBod Lumen, with its classic butt plug design, vibrations, and advanced interactive features, may be right up your street. We reckon it's the best long-distance sex toy for general anal play.

The lumen has a soft silicone body which makes it comfortable enough to wear for quite a long time. Its design features that iconic bulbous butt plug tip, with the addition of numerous cushioned ribs (Kiiroo calls this Velvet Wave technology) that make it look a bit like a honey dipper. These grooves provide a texture that makes insertion and removal more pleasurable - they're also great for slow thrusting.

This kind of advanced long-distance play is great to see and adds an extra layer to the whole experience, beyond simply long-distance control. There's also manual mode which features 4 different settings for pulsing vibrations. These do feel good and work decently for solo play, but to be honest it's a lot more pleasurable and fun to connect to someone else and have them control the toy for you. The vibrations can however also sync up to music, which is a neat feature.

The silicone used for the Lumen is totally body-safe and waterproof, but it's only compatible with water-based lube, so bear that in mind. The battery is rechargeable and you get around an hour of use from a 2.5-hour charge which isn't a great ratio but hey, it could be worse. You also get a nice satin travel bag which is a sweet bonus.

Results From Our Testers

• Nice and comfortable to insert, Velvet Wave ridges add to the comfort
• The manual pulse vibration modes are all satisfying
• The interactivity really helps the toy shine, connects and syncs to other toys easily
• Remote control and the ability to sync to music are also fun
• It would've been nice to be able to feel vibrations through the handle as it looks like a perineum massager

Pros and Cons

Alex Neo 2 Interactive App-Controlled Thrusting Masturbator

The Alex Neo 2 is a masturbator that gets you off hands-free with its unique thrusting stimulation. It includes multiple thrusting modes and settings, all of which can be controlled with a mobile app via Bluetooth - that's what makes it the best app-controlled masturbator for men in long-distance relationships.

It's also 5 inches long so most guys will be able to stimulate the majority of their penises, and even very well-endowed men will still be able to have some fun. Overall there are 7 built-in thrusting modes that you can use for automatic stimulation. These modes consist of numerous variations of thrusting speeds, depths, and patterns, and can be scrolled through using a single button on the top of the device. This button is nice and easy to use but we feel a few more buttons would have added more specific control without making things much more complex.

In addition to these modes, there's also the interactive, app-controlled mode we mentioned earlier. By linking it up to the app the masturbator can be controlled over long distances by a partner who is connected on their end, and you're also able to sync up the motion to interactive adult content such as videos and webcams.

The device itself, excluding the sleeve, is built from ABS plastic which feels nice and smooth. Despite being on the bulkier side it's a pretty light toy that is comfortable to hold or use hands-free if you can balance it right. It also has a rechargeable battery, and you get 1.5 hours of use from a 2-hour charge which is a decent ratio.

Results From Our Testers

• The thrusting works well and there are a good number of built-in settings
• The TPE sleeve is soft and lifelike and full of stimulating texture
• The long-distance app control works well, syncing to adult content isn't 100% accurate but that is to be expected
• The outer case is nice and smooth and easy to hold for a while due to the lightweight design
• The one-button control is a bit too simple, though this is somewhat remedied by the app

Pros and Cons

Kiiroo Onyx+ & Pearl2 Interactive Virtual Reality Sex Toy Kit for Couples

We've already mentioned the Kiiroo Onyx+ on this list, but this toy contains that automatic masturbator as well as the Pearl2 interactive vibrator, making it perfect for couples who are both into interactive toys and VR compatibility. Both toys are great on their own, but pair extremely well when connected.

The Onyx+, as we detailed in its entry earlier in the list, is a powerful interactive automatic masturbator masturbator. It uses contracting rings to simulate stroking and can reach up to 140 strokes per minute. It can be used manually, in automatic mode, or in interactive mode, syncing its motion to other devices or with adult content.

It's a silicone G-spot vibrator that features similar touch-sensitive technology to the Onyx+ which makes it perfect for pairing up with other sex toys over long distances. It can also connect to adult content including games and VR video, just like the Onyx+.

These two toys work amazingly well when both are connected to the app and synced up with each other's motion. They work so well that it's like they were designed to be paired up together - we wouldn't be surprised if this was the case. Strokes applied to the shaft of the Pearl2 are emulated inside the Onyx+, and swipes of the Onyx+'s touchpad are reflected with the Pearl2's vibrations.

As it's a set containing 2 sex toys, it is on the pricier end, but we feel it's worth it for 2 fantastic, advanced toys. It's easy to get them up and running long-distance, but they can be used in any scenario really, whether you're together or apart.

Results From Our Testers

• Both toys included here pair super well together
• The Onyx+ is our overall best long-distance toy, we're big fans of everything about it
• The Pearl2 is a great vibrator that shines when used long-distance with the Onyx+
• Everything is easy to set up and use
• As is usually the case, they don't 100% perfectly sync with interactive content but they get very close

Pros and Cons

We-Vibe Verge Bluetooth Vibrating Cock Ring for Men

We-Vibe's Verge is an advanced cock ring that combines all the usual erection-boosting benefits of c-rings with the extra pleasure that comes from vibrations that are channeled into both your penis and your perineum. It's our pick for the best long-distance cock ring as thanks to the We-Connect app, your partner will be able to control the vibrations regardless of where they are in the world.

With a bit of water-based lube, you should be able to slide it right on your penis with ease, and even before you get into the advanced features you'll be able to use it as a regular cock ring - it'll help give you stronger erections and may even help you delay ejaculation.

The advanced features are what make the Verge worth the hundred-dollar price tag though. With 10 vibration presets built into the ring, you get a fair amount of control immediately, and there's definitely a sweet spot for everyone to find. The vibrations feel great, and thanks to the shape of the ring, they can also be used to stimulate your perineum, which adds a lot to the overall pleasure.

Using the We-Connect app, you can sync the Verge to your or your partner's phone with Bluetooth. This lets the settings be controlled remotely, which is what makes it so good for long-distance relationships. The app also lets you create custom vibration patterns, which opens up a lot more possibilities.

While this is an excellent example of an advanced, stimulating cock ring, the price tag means we'd only really recommend it to people who are experienced with these kinds of toys - or at least anyone who doesn't mind dropping a chunk of change on a c-ring! Don't get us wrong though: the We-Vibe Verge is a great ring many people will get their money's worth out of.

Results From Our Testers

• The soft silicone is super comfortable
• The vibrations are strong and since you can create patterns with the app you never really run out of settings
• The perineum massager is a great feature and can also be placed above your penis to pleasure a partner when you're not just long-distance
• It's fun to use for solo sex, and with a partner, whether they're in the same room as you or miles away
• The price tag will put some people off, but we think it's worth it if you're really into cock rings

Pros and Cons

Customer Reviews

Lovense Gush Hands-free Masturbator & Penis Vibrator

The Lovense Gush is a masturbator and penis vibrator with quite a unique design; instead of being a straightforward tube or canal, it actually features wings that wrap around your penis, giving you a comfortable, personalized fit. As its place on this list implies, you can also control the settings long distance with a mobile app - we've crowned it the best long-distance penis vibrator.

The winged design means that regardless of the girth of your penis, you'll be able to get a stimulating fit. Its open-ended design also means that penis length is a non-issue, so don't worry about being too long or too short. If you want a tighter experience, Lovense has you covered with the included silicone band that you can slap on and tighten everything up.

It's made using soft silicone which adds comfort, alongside the custom fit. Inside the wings are a series of ribs that provide ample texture to get you off when used as a masturbator, even without the vibrations. Speaking of vibrations, there are 3 preset speeds and 10 patterns built-in, but you can create custom patterns with the app. You can sit with it hands-free and enjoy the vibrations, but you probably won't get too far without stroking with it.

This works as well as we were hoping - you shouldn't have any issues as long as each of you has a strong wifi connection. Alongside this, the app also allows you to sync the vibrations to music and audio as sounds can activate them - this has other creative applications such as syncing to your partner's voice if you can manage to set it upright.

The name Gush probably partially refers to how this vibrator is entirely waterproof, so feel free to take it with you in the bath or shower. With a 65-minute full charge, you should get over an hour of use - depending on the settings you might get two. This is a fantastic ratio!

Results From Our Testers

• Wings let you get a personalized fit which is nice and comfortable
• The silicone band lets you tighten the fit if you're into that - this can intensify stimulation
• The vibrations are strong and the preset speeds and patterns are decent - it gets better with the custom patterns from the app
• Good battery life - you can get up to twice as much time using it as you'll spend charging it, depending on the settings you use
• It'll fit most penises thanks to the wings and open-ended design

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How to choose a long-distance sex toy

1. Look at how you currently engage in long-distance sex

Whether you're into sexting, phone sex, video calls, or whatever else can make a difference here, as does what you actually get up to when you engage in long-distance sex.

If you're into masturbating while your partner is speaking or moving over a call, you might want to focus on toys that improve masturbation but aren't necessarily hands-free.

If you'd like a mutual experience, consider a set that contains a couple of long-distance sex toys - this works even better if the toys can communicate somehow, like with the Kiiroo Onyx+ and Pearl2 set we talked about earlier.

Essentially, take a look at how you're currently doing things, and try to think of how each toy on this list would slot into your routine without getting in the way. You want something you'll actually use, after all!

2. Consider trying new things

Long-distance sex, much like in-person sex, can often suffer from a lack of novelty. It can be even easier to fall into a routine when your options are as limited as they are when you're in a long-distance relationship. Toys are the perfect way to add some spice to your sex life.

While you may want something that doesn't disrupt your current situation too much to not get in the way of things, most of these toys are very easy to set up and use, and the majority of them are generally just toys you may already have, just with the ability to be controlled long-distance.

What we would recommend, is trying out a toy similar to what you're familiar with, just with extra settings, or a new feature, or something along those lines. This should be enough to add some extra oomph, and your partner should find that interesting too!

3. Get your partner involved

While these toys can all be controlled by your partner in one way or another, it can be even more fun if they also have a toy that you can control, or that communicates with your toy in some way. Most app-enabled toys are very simple to use - it can be easy to control their toy even if you're being stimulated by your own.

We've mentioned the Kiiroo double pack already, which features a masturbator and vibrator with touch-sensitive technology that reflects the sensations and touches that are applied to the other - this kind of thing can be amazing to use.

If your toys sync to audio or videos, you can both tune in to the same media, or even each other's voices if they're activated by sound. You might have to get creative, but there are a lot of options.

4. Keep an eye on features

The features of a toy dictate what kind of stimulation you'll be receiving. There are toys on this list that stimulate with vibrations, hands-free thrusting, as well as manual stroking and massaging. If you're already familiar with these kinds of stimulation, we'd recommend going for something with stronger settings, or more premium materials as an upgrade.

There's nothing wrong with getting a new toy to try out a new kind of stimulation or a new feature, but bear in mind that you can't return used sex toys, so keep an eye on the price if you're determined to learn about your preferences in this way.

Of course, there are also the interactive features that all the toys on this list include. Most of them can be controlled hands-free and long-distance using phone apps, but some can sync their stimulation to adult content (including videos, VR, games, and webcams), music, and audio, as well as other toys. These kinds of features do add to the price, but as for the toys on this list, they all work very well.

5. Choose according to your size and experience

To ensure you don't end up either out of your depth, wasting your money, or both, always take your level of experience, and the accurate size of your penis into account.

You don't want a toy that's too basic for you, and you don't want something too complex or overstimulating - take stock of what you already have and go from there. As we mentioned, you can't return these once you've used them, so be sensible about it.

Size may be an obvious to consider, but you'd be surprised. Again, you don't want to lose money on a toy that doesn't fit right - measure your penis accurately, and choose something that gives you a bit of leeway, unless you know what you're doing.

Summary

As you can see, there are long-distance remote-controlled versions of basically every sex toy imaginable thanks to Bluetooth and cell phone apps.

Whether you want a masturbator, prostate massager, cock ring, or penis vibrator, modern technology means you'll be able to share the fun with your partner even if they're on the other side of the world. All the toys on this list are great, but the right one for you depends on your preferences and situation.

Make sure to keep the extra features of each toy into account, as while they can all be controlled hands-free, they all do different things. Consider your experience, consider your penis size, and consider getting a toy for your partner too!