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If you haven't explored the sensations and sexual heights you can achieve from anal stimulation, investing in a few specially designed toys and learning how to use them will introduce you to a new way of enjoying some super intense orgasms.
Anal Dildos Pack Plenty of Punch
If you've recently invested in a new toy and are exploring how to get the best from it, we think our list of positions is the perfect starting point, guiding you to more intense pleasure play by:
- Reaching internal pleasure points from different angles
- Stimulating the prostate gland and exploring the prostate orgasm
- Enjoying the intense sensations from the nerves surrounding the anus
- Preparing you for anal sex play
- Expanding your foreplay repertoire, solo play, and masturbation sessions
When we think about conventional sex positions, Missionary (in this case, sitting upright, legs apart) is usually the first way we explore most sexual practices, and it probably goes without saying that most people will do the same with their first butt plug or anal dildo.
To take your solo or partnered anal play beyond that great starting point, here are a few suggestions for anal dildo positions designed to take you and your toys to higher heights and further pleasure.
1. On Your Side, On the Bed
How? Laying on your side, reach around and slowly insert your dildo into your behind.
Why? It's an ideal position to relax your body, and relaxation is essential for anal penetration. It's a great beginner position, as it also allows you to push your dildo inside from varying angles and learn where your most intense sensations come from and how to massage those pleasure points most efficiently for mind-blowing orgasms.
Taking on-your-side dildo play to the next level
You've got a spare hand, so use it. Whether you choose to stroke, tease, and tug at your nipples, stomach, or other sensitive areas or to masturbate your genitals, lying on your side offers an opportunity to double your pleasure until you reach orgasm.
This is one of the most popular positions for anal dildo use, so for anyone with a prostate interested in exploring multiple orgasms, this could be the position for you.
A biological male, with his typical at birth reproductive parts in tact (a penis and two testicles), can potentially have multiple orgasms through being anally penetrated but not through ejaculation. In reasoning, an ejaculation is followed by a refractory period. While an orgasm through anal penetration of the biological male's anus may not have a refractory period. Stereotypical Biological Male Anal Orgasm Postulate – ResearchGate
For more information and all the facts about prostate milking and prostate orgasm, why not visit our page in the knowledge center that covers all the details?
2. With a Toy Mount, Riding it
How? There's no shortage of dildos and sex toys that come with a suction cup base. Stick your suction cup dildo firmly in place and back or lower yourself onto it. You're now perfectly positioned for some hands-free solo sex.
Why? If you want to simulate anal or vaginal sex, a suction cup dildo fixes solidly to a chair, wall, or anything else with a smooth surface, allowing you to move and grind exactly as you would during sex or if you were giving your partner a lap dance.
Taking mounting your dildo to the next level
For those really aiming for the truest-to-life anal sex experience while shopping for a suction cup dildo, why not try a vibrating and squirting model? Not only will the variation of vibration patterns help stimulate all those sensitive nerve endings as you slide up and down your firmly fixed dildo, but with its handy remote control, you get to dictate every last detail of your hands-free simulated sex session—right down to feeling a burst of cum/jizz lube firing inside you at the climax, imitating a partner's orgasm.
3. Standing Up, Slightly Bent
How? A simple position that's good for beginners. Raise one leg slightly while standing, or more comfortably, rest it on a stool, a box, or something else of suitable height while you slide your dildo into place.
Why? This position allows plenty of freedom for newbies to explore anal entry. It allows full movement of the hips, providing plenty of angles of approach and access to all the right spots.
Taking standing-up dildo play to the next level
Going back to the suction cup dildo, try sticking it to a door or the shower wall and backing onto it. It's as close to standing doggy-style anal sex as you can get without a partner, giving you complete control over the speed, depth, and how you grind against it. Going hands-free allows you the freedom to masturbate while you thrust and pump backward and forwards.
4. On Your Knees (Doggy Style)
How? To simulate doggy-style sex, get into a kneeling position, and while resting on one arm, reach around behind yourself to access the anus. If you feel more comfortable, you can kneel on the floor and lean on the side of the bed, creating the same angle of entry but in a more relaxed position.
Why? The doggy position allows clear access to an open and relaxed anus, making penetration easier and more pleasurable.
Taking on-your-knees dildo play to the next level
To take any of our positions next level, temperature play is a great option, but with the easy access position doggy style offers, it's ideal for mixing up your sex toys and experiencing hot and cold sensations in and around your anus. A glass dildo will hold the heat and the cold—try dipping it in hot water or a bowl of ice cubes.
There are other dildos that conduct hot and cold temperatures, including a range of metals (including ultra sleek chrome), stone, and some hard plastics.
When engaging in temperature play, always check each toy's instructions for suitability, or shop for specially designed temperature-play sex toys to ensure your safety.
5. In the Spooning Position
How? Possibly the laziest and most relaxed of all the sex positions, that's why the spooning position has so much to offer your anal sex play. Lay on your side, pull your knees up, and relax while your partner takes control of your sex session.
Why? With the knees bent and pulled towards you and in such a relaxed position and state, it helps to open the anus, allowing easy access for your partner to insert your lubed-up dildo.
Taking dildo spooning play to the next level
With both hands-free and your partner taking charge of your toy, take advantage of that time to build your pleasure. Stroke and tease your erogenous zones or slowly masturbate while your partner works on your butt and prostate. Introducing a vibrating penis ring or masturbator will add even more sensations to your session.
Just remember to pay back the pleasure; partnered sex is a two-player adventure, after all!
Spooning is an ideal opportunity for partnered anal sex, so why shouldn't you jump straight to the main act? Well, according to sex journalist and regular PsychologyToday contributor Michael Castleman M.A., anal sex appears to be the least popular type of anal stimulation:
Actually, penis-anus intercourse is the least popular variation [of anal exploration]. Most couples limit it to massage, shallow fingering, insertion of small toys, and oral-anal contact (analingus, rimming). Introducing a Different Kind of Play into Partner Sex
6. Facing Down on the Bed
How? Lay face down on your bed and spread your legs in a wide V-shape. Reach behind and let your solo anal play begin. For the most relaxing experience, work any vibrating dildo or vibrating butt plug into the anus, and this becomes possibly the best position to enjoy a hands-free sexual extravaganza.
Why? It's probably the most relaxing and effortless way to tease all those exquisite nerve endings in and around the anus.
Taking face-down dildo play to the next level
For an easier and alternative access angle, sex pillows come in different shapes and sizes and take pressure off the body while maintaining the ideal angle for perfect penetration.
Try laying over a wedge-shaped sex pillow; it'll keep your butt raised and your anus open for those ideal lazy sessions.
For added stimulation, try wearing a vibrating penis ring or placing a masturbation cup between you and the bed. With a dildo vibrating in your butt, start gently thrusting for the headiest build-up to an almighty orgasm.
7. With Your Partner Holding It
How? Hand over the reins to your partner and let them take the driving seat—whatever positions you end up in.
Why? Relinquishing control of your anal toys requires trust, yet it pays off in excitement and anticipation. Unlike your solo anal play, you don't know where or what your partner will try next.
For heterosexual couples, when it comes to the female body and anal pleasure, we know it provides access to different areas of the clitoris, but will your partner enjoy it? The only way to find out is through open communication and exploration. When it's your turn to toy your partner, consider what this article, Women’s Techniques for Pleasure from Anal Touch, in Plos One journal found:
- Approximately 35% of women have experienced pleasure using ‘Anal Shallowing’: penetrative touch by a finger, penis, or sex toy just inside the anal opening, no deeper than a fingertip/knuckle.
- 40% of women make other forms of sexual touch more pleasurable using ‘Anal Pairing’: touch on or inside the anus that happens at the same time as other kinds of sexual touch such as vaginal penetration or clitoral touching.
Taking anal dildo partner play to the next level
Adding a little ass play to your partnered sessions could be your first step to exploring BDSM. Having someone toy you to orgasm while you're cuffed to the bed or bent over in the shower can be sensational in ways you may not have experienced before. However, when engaging in BDSM, always ensure you've discussed your red and green flags and have a suitable safeword in play for when things get too much.
Additional Tips to Improve Your Anal Masturbation with a Dildo
Exploring the P-spot, C-spot, and A-spot orgasms
However you identify and whatever your sexuality, whether you've got a penis or a vagina, anal sex, and masturbation could uncover a range of hidden pleasures. For those with a prostate, you can enjoy bigger, more explosive, and even multiple orgasms, while those with vaginas can access the nerves of the extended clitoris through the anus—all while stimulating their outer clit at the same time.
Anal sex and masturbation have become more commonly accepted in today's society, as detailed by this study, Anal Manipulation as a Source of Sexual Pleasure, by ResearchGate:
Anal manipulation, also known as anal masturbation, may be performed either as a prelude to other sexual activities or may be enjoyed as an activity in itself.
It may be performed with a sex partner or as a form of autoeroticism, either independently or in conjunction with genital masturbation.
Exploring what works for you (and your partner) is the best way to uncover your greatest pleasure spots. However, one great tip is to try guiding dildos in at a 45º angle, aiming the sex toy at the prostate, or, for those with a vagina, at parts of the internal clitoris, as sticking to the conventional straight in-and-out motion isn't likely to deliver the best results.
1. Make sure to warm up
Start small and easy, taking your time and building slowly to deeper penetration and thrusting. A little exploration and light anal fingering will help relax the body, preparing it for more intense action. Ensuring you're turned on, adequately lubed, and fully relaxed is essential, given how delicate the skin inside the rectum is.
The golden rule of anal masturbation, whether you're using your fingers, a dildo, or a prostate massager, is to take your time and don't do anything until you're sure you're ready.
2. Wash and douche before your play session
Hygiene is a key area of all anal play, so ensure you wash thoroughly before and after with warm, soapy water. Many people like to douche before anal sessions. Anal douching squirts a small amount of warm water into the rectum to flush it out. You should douche in advance of your anal play sessions, giving your body time to allow the water to exit the body, as occasionally, a little may get trapped and take a little while longer to work its way clear.
3. Clean yourself and your sex toys after every use
Sticking with hygiene, it's crucial to wash yourself and all sex toys with warm, soapy water or specialist antibacterial cleaners to ensure maximum cleanliness before and after use.
4. Consider anal play with a partner
Exploring sex toys with a partner adds fun and excitement to foreplay and sex, whether together or virtual. For heterosexual couples, using toys on each other is a great way to deliver attention while learning about what turns you both on. Double dildos—a longer, more flexible dildo with a penis head shape at both ends—allow face-to-face penetration for both of you at the same time. To maximize how many orifices you can fill at one time, try an anal dildo for him and a U-shaped double-penetration dildo for her.
5. Explore all the features of your dildo
We live in a world spoilt with choice. To make the most of your anal dildos—with their suction cups, multiple vibrations, remote controls, add-ons, and special features—read the instructions and test-drive every feature. Work your way through the different vibrations to see which ones work best for your body at each stage of your play. And if there's a remote, why not hand it over to your partner and let them take charge of your adventure?
Added note: What's the difference between anal dildos and butt plugs?
- Butt plugs are designed to be inserted and left in place, providing a feeling of fullness or for the user to enjoy the sensations provided by their different modes of vibration.
- While butt plugs and anal dildos each have a flared base to prevent them from passing too far into the anal canal, an anal dildo is designed to slide in and out, simulating the pleasures of anal sex.
- A butt plug is often shorter and bullet-shaped for easier entry, whereas dildos are larger and more likely to resemble a man's penis. For those who prefer an alternative to realistic dildos, there are plenty of smooth, neutral-shaped models to choose from.
6. Use plenty of lube
For any anal sex play, lubrication is your best friend. Unlike a vagina, the anus doesn't self-lubricate, so working plenty of lube inside with your fingers is a must and also a great way to relax your anus for penetration. However, if you don't like to get your hands and fingers covered in lube, you can use a lube shooter to apply it around and inside the rectum.
While water-based lube is perfect for most silicone sex toys, lube that's specially designed for anal sex and anal play is thicker and lasts longer than traditional options. If you don't want to keep reapplying lube yet stay nice and slippery during your sessions, this could be the option for you.
7. Breathe
Deep and slow breathing will help your body relax physically and mentally. If you're not experienced with anal entry, relaxation is the key. If at any point your butt tenses, nothing's getting in there without an unhealthy fight, so learn all the ways you can to relax your body and mind to ensure the easiest and most pleasurable experience from your anal toys.
8. Go gradually (Particularly if you’re a beginner)
Getting to grips with a butt plug is a great way to build on your anal exploration with sex toys. Given their size and shape, they're ideal for anal training. They're generally smaller and more suitably shaped for easy access and penetration. You can build on its use and size until you're ready for bigger dildos and prostate massagers, more movement, and the thrusting that simulates anal sex.
Summary
Exploring anal sex positions with dildos can add a lot of fun and excitement to your love life and solo pleasure time. As long as you remember to stay open-minded, relax, and play safe, our list of anal dildo positions should help you find your personal favorites and a whole new range of sensations!
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