10 Best Sex Toys for Gay Men in 2024

Though the phrase "male sex toys" usually brings to mind images of pocket pussies such as Fleshlights, it's safe to say that these aren't really intended for gay men. However, there are lots of sex toys out there that are specifically designed to appeal to men who love men, regardless of the specificities of their sexualities.

If you're a gay man, you're reading the right article. Here, we're focussing on the sex toys made for gay men, and every other man who wants a toy based on the male form. We've included male dildos, butt strokers, as well as products focused simply on anal play such as prostate massagers, butt plugs, and anal lube.

Once we've told you all about our favorite toys for gay men, we'll give you some pointers intended to help you decide on the perfect toy for your needs before you take the plunge and make a purchase - we're certain you'll find them helpful. Let's get right to it!

Best Sex Toys for Gay Men at a Glance

The Ultimate Prostate Massager Rim Job Anal Vibrator by Kink

Kink by Doc Johnson's Ultimate Prostate Massager is a p-spot vibrator that we believe to be the very best on the market for anyone that enjoys having their butthole stimulated in various ways. You can thrust it in and out, target your prostate specifically, and enjoy rimjob and perineum stimulation, all with this one toy.

There are 10 vibrating functions in the shaft, as well as 10 vibration speeds for the perineum stimulator, which gives you a fair amount of options - and you can control them separately. The perineum stimulation takes the pleasure received from the shaft a lot further.

While the shaft can be used to precisely stimulate your prostate, making it easier to achieve a prostate orgasm, it also features rows of rotating beads at the base, which is how the toy emulates rimjob stimulation. This stimulation isn't particularly realistic, but it does feel very good - the multidirectional rotating beads are a great addition.

This massager is built from silicone, and this combined with its bulbous design with smooth contours makes it very comfortable to insert and use the 5-inch shaft - make sure to use some water-based lube though. Some may prefer a more anatomical penis-style design, but we think that in this case it adds to the overall usability and comfort, and helps a lot with physical stimulation.

Results From Our Testers

• Nice and easy to insert and target prostate with
• The vibrations feel great and there are a good amount of options
• Rotating beads feel great but aren't too realistic
• Perineum stimulator is a neat addition, adds to the overall pleasure
• Lots of different methods of stimulation but they all work very well

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Extreme Fuck My Cock | XL Gay Masturbator by Pipedream Products

Our search for the best stroker for men who are into penises led us to this - the Extreme Fuck My Cock masturbator by Pipedream. This toy combines extreme physical stimulation from the tight butthole orifice and textured canal, as well as extreme visual stimulation from its design. Furthermore, it's also a sizeable anal dildo!

The butthole orifice is nice and tight - as you'd expect - and inside the penis shaft is a canal with a heavy texture for a lot of stimulation. You can also squeeze the penis to adjust the level of stimulation you achieve.

As we mentioned, the penis section isn't just for looking at - you can also use it as an anal dildo. With an insertable length of 7 inches (9 inches for the XL version) and a width of 3 inches (4.375 for the XL) it makes for a formidable dildo that'll fill you up while providing a lot of stimulation with its realistic veins and ridges. The XL version includes balls for additional visual fun.

The design, while not quite anatomically correct in terms of size and placement of features, is quite realistic when broken down into parts, and it feels lifelike too thanks to the FantaFlesh TPE material. It's not as soft as silicone, but we feel the realistic texture makes up for this. The material is also waterproof so you can take the toy with you in the bath or shower.

Results From Our Testers

• The Stroker canal is very stimulating
• It has a fun design that offers a lot of visual stimulation
• Works great as a dildo, and isn't too big but beginners may need practice
• FantaFlesh feels nice and very lifelike
• The individual aspects of the design are quite anatomically correct but as a whole, it's not very realistic

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Titanmen Master Tool No. 4 Triple Bump Butt Plug for Men Black

Titanmen's Master Tool No. 4 is our pick for the best butt plug on the market for gay men. With its triple bump design, it's capable of providing a whole lot of pleasure on both insertion and removal, while giving a pleasurably intense stretch in between. These bumps gradually increase in size, meaning you can go as far as you like.

Though this isn't the largest butt plug we've ever seen, it's still sizeable enough to give beginners and even intermediate users a decent challenge, with its insertable length of 6 inches and maximum diameter of 2.62 inches. This is more than enough to give a good stretch, and thankfully the design features bumps that work up to this size, which allows you to take your time and not push too far, or go for it if you're up for the challenge.

This butt plug is made from body-safe PVC which is firm enough to keep its shape and provide pressure, but soft enough to conform just a little to your body, making it more comfortable to keep inserted for longer periods of time.

The bulbous shape of the plug helps with insertion, as does the fact that the first bump is the smallest. You'll still need to use lube, especially if you intend to make use of every bump, but you shouldn't have any problems unless you've never used a plug before. The bumpy design also adds to the fun of using it with a partner, as they can gently thrust with it to give you extra pleasure.

Results From Our Testers

• Triple bump design adds to pleasure and gives you more options - you don't have to use all of them at once
• The PVC material feels good here which is nice as it can sometimes be a little squeaky
• The round tip helps make insertion easier while still giving a decent stretch
• Comfy enough to wear for a long time
• The bumps only really add stimulation on insertion and removal

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Head-to-Head Vibrating Masturbation Sleeve for 2 Dicks by Tom of Finland

This unique toy is what we reckon to be the best penis head vibrator for gay men as it's suitable for solo play as well as capable of stimulating two penises at the same time. The Head-to-Head Vibrating Masturbation Sleeve is a lot of fun to use thanks to its powerful vibrations, textured canal, and how you can experience all this stimulation while touching tips with whomever you please.

As this is an open-ended vibrating masturbator, the overall length of the toy is the same as the insetable length - which is a large 10.5 inches. This means you won't have to worry about it being too short unless you're astonishingly well-endowed. Even if you are though, the dual vibrators, though intended to stimulate to penises, will still provide ample fun to your shaft.

There is only one setting, but it's a good intermediate level of vibration that doesn't overstimulate when combined with the stimulation from the textured canal.

This double-ended stroker is made from TPR that is soft and comfy as well a stretchy, which is necessary to accommodate two partners moving around while connected by the toy. In the middle of the toy, there's a hole in the TPR which gives you some control over the suction. It's not waterproof enough to withstand being submerged, but water-resistant enough to be usable in the shower.

Results From Our Testers

• Very unique and a lot of fun to use with a partner
• The canal's texture is stimulating and is long enough even when accommodating two penises
• It's great that it can be used solo as well
• The vibrators feel good but there's only one setting
• You can't move too much while two penises are inside, but you don't necessarily need to move very far

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Dr. Skin Thick 8 Inch Brown Realistic Suction Cup Anal Dildo by Blush Novelties

For our best anal dildo for gay men, we've chosen a toy that we think will work for everyone, being a fantastic all-rounder - this 8-inch Dr. Skin dildo by Blush Novelties. It's large enough to be used by those with experience but its flexible material and tapered design mean even beginners will be able to give it a go, as long as they use enough water-based lube!

With an insertable length of 7.5 inches and a width of 2 inches, this dildo definitely won't be too small for anyone. Its size is large but not crazy, and as we mentioned, its realistically tapered design and flexible material will help with insertion even if you lack experience. Just take your time!

The PVC material that makes up this toy is firm enough to provide some pressure but not too hard that it's uncomfortable. It also features a very realistic penis sculpt complete with all the necessary veins and ridges which both add to the visual stimulation and provide some physically stimulating texture. Moreover, the penis is curved enough to make hitting your prostate nice and easy.

On the base of the toy you'll find a suction cup which both increases the safety of using it with your hands and allows you to use it hands-free by attaching it to a smooth surface such as the shower wall. This suction cup also makes it compatible with harnesses, making it perfectly suitable for pegging.

Results From Our Testers

• It's a simple dildo but it works very well
• The design is super realistic and the veins add physical stimulation
• Suction cup lets you use it hands-free - always a great addition
• Curved design helps you stimulate your prostate
• Might be a little big for absolute beginners, but the realistic design and texture will help with the insertion

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Dick Rambone Dildo | 13.5 Inch Realistic Huge Anal Dildo

This Dick Rambone dildo - inspired by the legendary penis of the pornstar himself - is our pick for the best extreme anal dildo for gay men. We mean extreme in every sense of the word - extreme in both length and width, capable of providing extreme sexual pleasure, and only really suitable for experts looking for an extreme challenge.

We are not exaggerating. This dildo has an overall length of 16.7 inches, and while only 13.4 inches of this are insertable that's still a frankly ridiculous length. Combine it with a maximum girth of 2.35 inches, we'd struggle to think of anybody who wouldn't find this dildo challenging to use.

Though its size does mean this dildo verges on being quite unrealistic compared to most guys' penises, it is molded after Dick Rambone's penis and is quite accurate to the real thing. All the way down the shaft you'll find veins that add texture, and the head is tapered for insertion and features a defined ridge which adds even more stimulation. It's made from PVC which is firm but still soft enough to be comfy.

There's a suction cup at the base of this dildo which lets you use it hands-free, though we'd recommend taking it easy if you choose to do this. There's no need to rush, and however many inches you don't manage to get inside you will be ready and waiting for next time. The suction cup is also compatible with harnesses, meaning it facilitates some particularly extreme pegging.

Results From Our Testers

• This is a crazy dildo, you might need to work up to using it but we think it's worth it
• The design is realistic all the way down the enormous shaft
• It's also wide enough to give a good stretch - use a lot of lube
• Suction cup means you can use it hands-free
• It works best if you go gently - rushing is a bad idea!

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Au Naturel Realistic Fat Boy 7 Inch Brown Anal Dildo with Balls by Blush Novelties

The Au Natural Fat Boy by Blush Novelties is the best choice looking for a dildo that excels in the width and girth departments but doesn't have an extreme length. This dildo has an insertable length of 5 inches, making it quite realistic to most penises you'll encounter, but its 2.2-inch width means it'll give you a nice big stretch.

This thick dildo is made from TPE which helps give it a very lifelike texture. It's nice and soft on the outside making it comfortable to use, and it has a solid core which gives it a nice firmness and a bit of weight - this dual-density design is always great to see as it also adds a lot of realism to the toy. It's also fairly flexible which helps it conform to your body.

There's a suction cup attached to the bottom of this dildo, which means you can use it hands-free - all you need to do is stick it to a smooth, flat surface and then you can back up sit on it and go to town.

As it's sculpted to be nice and realistic, the design of this dildo features all the veins, bumps, and ridges that you'd find on a real penis; these textural aspects all help add to the stimulation as you thrust it in and out. This is a decent dildo for anyone looking to take things a little further - it's not intimidatingly large, but it's wide enough to stretch you out.

Results From Our Testers

• It's good to have a thick option that isn't ridiculously long
• Realistic sculpt and design
• Suction cup base for hands-free use, always good
• Dual-density design is realistic and comfortable
• Not too challenging for beginners but you might need to work up to it

Pros and Cons

Dr. Skin Stud Muffin Realistic Anal Dildo with Balls by Blush Novelties

Our pick for the best realistic anal dildo for gay men is this 8.5-inch Stud Muffin Dr. Skin dildo by blush novelties. It's lifelike in every aspect from its visual design, its texture, as well as its realistic size. If you're after a simple dildo that serves as a close replica of a real penis, it's definitely worth checking this one out.

We say realistic size as though this dildo has an overall length of 8.5 inches, part of that includes the lifelike balls included on the bottom. Really, there are 6.25 inches of insertable length, which comfortably puts this dildo at 1.75 inches thick - just slightly above average size in both regards. This helps it feel more like a real penis as it's not absurdly oversized!

The tapered tip makes it quite easy to insert (though we'd still recommend using some water-based lube) and the slight curve makes it easier to hit your prostate. The balls look a little less realistic, but that's only really because they're rigid.

This dildo is made from PVC which helps it find a lifelike balance between firm and soft, while also helping the dildo remain hygienic thanks to its non-porous nature. On the base of the dildo, you'll find a suction cup that lets you use it hands-free and also makes it compatible with harnesses so you can use it for pegging. It's quite a basic dildo but its realistic design and texture push it a little further.

Results From Our Testers

• It's a pretty standard dildo but it works very well
• Looks very realistic
• Feels realistic - lifelike sculpt adds pleasure
• It's fun to use hands-free or with pegging
• It's a little basic

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Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Anal Lube | Thick Creamy Lubricant

If you're looking for a high-quality numbing lube that you can trust to not cause any problems, we'd recommend Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Anal Lubricant. It features a gentle formula that doesn't just turn you fully numb and incapable of experiencing any sensations at all, and its thick and creamy texture adds a lot of cushioning making it perfect for all kinds of anal sex.

The formula in question is made up of 5% benzocaine, among other body-safe ingredients. It's this benzocaine that provides the gentle numbing effect without taking it overboard so you can still feel pleasure. It also means you can still feel pain in case you accidentally take things too far - this is necessary so you can stop before causing any real damage, so don't take it as a bad thing.

This thickness makes it a great choice for anal sexual activities of all varieties including hardcore sex and fisting. As it's an oil-based lube, we would advise against using it with toys unless you have done it before, as it can damage them. It can also be hard for beginners to fully wash it out of their body, which can lead to infections. It's also not compatible with condoms.

Usually, we wouldn't recommend numbing lube to anyone who doesn't know what they're doing, but as we expect this list to be mainly ready by people experienced with anal play, we think this lube is safe to shout out. Even so, though it numbs gently, take care only to use a small amount - you can always add a little more if necessary but you'll have to wait if you get too numb.

Results From Our Testers

• Works very well, and gently numbs so you aren't fully incapable of sensation
• The thick and creamy texture is nice and cushioning, great for anal
• A small amount goes a long way
• Stays where you need it which is good as you don't risk numbing areas you don't want to be numbed
• As it's oil-based there are compatibility issues with condoms and sex toys, but it is moisturizing

Pros and Cons

Colt Anal Trainer Kit | Set of 3 Black Butt Plugs

Anyone looking to get into anal training - the process of gradually using slightly larger butt plugs to work your way up to more extreme toys, or just up to anal sex - we'd recommend trying out this Colt Anal Trainer Kit from Cal Exotics. It features 3 butt plugs that slowly but surely increase in length and girth, and help make anal training easy and pleasurable.

The smallest plug has an insertable length of 4 inches with a width of 1 inch, the medium plug has an insertable length of 5 inches with a width of 1.25 inches, and the largest plug has an insertable length of 6 inches with a width of 1.5 inches. These plugs are all made from PVC, which helps give them a smoothness and slight flexibility that helps with insertion.

As the smallest is designed to be around the size of a pinky finger, we'd recommend starting with that one if you're a beginner - and make sure you use plenty of water-based lube! Take your time and only move up a size when you're ready.

All of the plugs feature a wide, flared base which keeps them safe as you're not at risk of getting them stuck, or lost inside you. Though since they're very smooth they don't have a particularly stimulating texture, they give a great stretch and are perfectly comfortable for extended periods of wear, making them great for pairing with other sexual activities. They are also all long enough to reach your prostate with enough practice.

Results From Our Testers

• All the plugs are relatively easy to insert as they're rounded and tapered
• They're all super smooth and quite flexible
• Each of the plugs is comfortable to wear for an extended period
• The sizes increase gradually enough so it feels natural to go up a size
• They're not the most stimulating plugs on their way in and out, but they give a nice stretch

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How to choose the right sex toy

1. Choose according to your level of experience

Your personal experience can inform you of how extreme of a sex toy to purchase. If you're a beginner, you don't want to get something too long, too thick, too complex, too stimulating, or too expensive. Though it might turn out to be fine for you, there's a high chance it'll be too much in one way or another - and you can't return used toys.

The same is true if you're an intermediate user. There's still no need to rush into an extreme, expensive, toy just because you have a bit of experience. Take your time, and your wallet (and butthole) will thank you.

If you are an advanced user with a lot of experience, now's the time to go for something a bit more hardcore or luxurious. Chances are you know what you like, and you might be more comfortable investing in something more costly, as there's much more of a chance you'll have of enjoying it.

2. Envision how you're going to use it

Different purposes require different anal toys. If you're looking for something to provide a lot of stimulation, think about where you want to stimulate. There's your prostate, perineum, and anus to think about, and different toys stimulate these areas in different ways, so plan based on your preferences.

If you want something to keep in your butthole while you get up to other sexual activities, or just go about your business, you'll probably want to go for a butt plug-style toy that you can insert and then leave alone as you're being stretched.

Some toys on this list are also compatible with harnesses which makes them useful for couples who are interested in pegging.

If you're looking to buy a lube, make sure it's suitable for your preferred activities (thicker lubes are better for anal play) as well as being compatible with your favorite gay sex toys - and vice versa...

3. Make sure it's compatible with your preferred lube

Certain lubes are not compatible with certain toys. Water-based lube is generally compatible with everything, so if this is your favorite you're in luck. However, water-based lube is often not quite thick enough for anal play, so people turn to silicone or oil-based lube.

These lubes, however, have compatibility issues. Neither are always compatible with soft toys made from materials such as silicone, TPE, or PVC, which are most toys on this list. Silicone lube is usually compatible with harder materials though, such as glass or wood.

Oil-based lube isn't usually recommended for internal use at all, but we know people use it anyway. If you plan on using oil-based lube with compatible toys (check the labels) ensure you clean both the toys and yourself extremely thoroughly to avoid damaging the toys or contracting an infection.

4. Increase the size of your toys progressively

Don't rush into purchasing a huge toy if you've only ever used small or medium ones. You need to give your body time to adjust and relax in order to use larger toys without causing pain and/or damage to sensitive areas that you really don't want to damage.

Though purchasing more toys requires spending more and more money, there are anal training kits that give you multiple butt plugs for this very purpose, often for quite a steal.

Summary

Overall, there are loads of toys out there that are incredible for gay men. All the toys we've featured on this list are fantastic - we've tried them - but to find the one that most perfectly suits your needs, ensure that you make the considerations we mentioned earlier.

Don't rush into the largest toy - as tempting as this can be, it'll cause more problems than pleasure. Take your time! And always make sure your toy will be compatible with your favorite lube.

We're sure that through using this list and these tips, you'll be able to find something amazing.