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If you're a partner in a couple with significant height differences, you might find that some standard sexual positions either don't provide the stimulation you're looking for or are, quite honestly, impossible for you to achieve (we're looking at you standing shower sex!)
The difference in average heights between men and women in the US is around 6 inches - although it can be significantly more. So, if one of you is over 6ft and the other is 5ft or less, many sex positions just can't offer enough intimacy or the right kind of penetration.
Don't worry though, with thousands of possible positions to choose from, there's always a way to find sexual satisfaction for you both! In this guide, we'll talk you through the best sex positions for couples with a height difference - explaining how to make each one work and what makes each position a great addition to your sex life!
6 Best Sex Positions for Height Difference Listed
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SEX POSITION |
WHAT MAKES THIS POSITION GREAT |
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Modified Doggy Style (Elevated) |
Popular choice for deep penetration and can stimulate the G-spot due to angling, with potential for added clitoral or anal stimulation |
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The Receiver on the Edge of the Bed |
Offers perfect alignment for penetration, accommodating various sizes, and angles. It's also conducive to powerful thrusts, allowing partners to maintain a strong rhythm and intensity |
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Missionary |
Offers intimate body contact and a loving sensation, particularly favored by women for the skin-to-skin touch and the partner's weight on top. |
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Corkscrew |
Offers deep penetration for all penis sizes and stimulates the G-spot, enhancing pleasure. It allows couples of different heights to maintain intimate eye contact and offers a captivating view from above |
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The Wheelbarrow |
Accommodates different heights with arm and leg adjustments, allowing for optimal penetration height. |
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Side 69 |
Offers mutual pleasure during oral sex and suits different heights. |
1. Modified Doggy Style (Elevated)
The Modified Doggy position takes classic doggy-style sex and adjusts the height of the receiver for maximum stimulation.
Start with the receiving partner getting into the hands and knees doggy style position on the bed or surface you're using. Then, with the penetrating partner standing behind, judge the adjustment in height you're going to need.
Pillows underneath your partner's knees are a perfect way of the height boost needed to give you both satisfying penetration. Then again, you could always move location, having your partner kneel on something more elevated than your bed - perhaps your sofa or a chair.
The Modified Doggy position takes classic doggy-style sex and adjusts the height of the receiver for maximum stimulation.
You can also adjust your position so your partner's hips are more elevated in relation to yours too. It's a good idea to experiment with standing at the side of the bed or spreading your own legs outwards to reduce the height of your hips too.
What makes this position great?
Doggy style is many couples' go-to choice for deep penetration. Your penis is likely to angle downwards slightly if you're taller than your partner too - so you're likely to stimulate her G-spot when you're penetrating her from behind.
Depending on the angle that your partner enjoys, she's likely to have at least one of her hands free too, which means she can reach back and stimulate her clitoris or stroke your balls as you're inside her. Of course, your hands are also free, so you can add clitoral stimulation, a little anal play, or use a sex toy to add even more fun.
Doggy style is many couples' go-to choice for deep penetration.
It's not just physical stimulation that the elevated doggy position offers though - it's also a huge psychological turn-on for lots of people. Since you're doing most of the thrusting, a little dominance comes into play too - perfect if both of you are turned on by the idea of a little domination and submission.
2. The Receiver on the Edge of the Bed
Although the name might not roll off the tongue like 'doggy' or 'reverse cowgirl' - the receiver on the edge of the bed position is a fantastic way of making up for height differences between partners.
To make it work, one partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed with their legs dangling or feet on the floor. Standing or kneeling in front of her, the taller partner can then position their hips to be at roughly the same level as the shorter partner, enabling comfortable penetration.
You might need to use some props to adjust the height of either partner to get things just right. Pillows under the receiving partner's hips work perfectly - and they can also be used under your knees if you find that kneeling gets you at roughly the right height.
To make it work, one partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed with their legs dangling or feet on the floor.
When you're inside your partner, you can either take control of the thrusting - or she can lift and lower her hips to grind against you. She can also lift or lower her legs to help to get the angle just right - even putting them against your chest or outside your arms, or over your shoulders for even deeper penetration.
What makes this position great?
As well as making it possible to get perfectly aligned, the receiver on the edge of the bed position is ideal for mixing up the angle and depth of penetration. This makes it a great choice whether you're especially well-endowed, slightly on the smaller side, or anywhere in between - as you can make sure you're hitting your partner's G-spot easily.
Having the penetrated partner on the edge of the bed is also great if you both enjoy powerful thrusts. With your feet or knees firmly on the floor, you can find a powerful rhythm and increase the intensity by holding your partner tight as you do. Holding her hips works especially well for this - as does holding her arms by her sides.
Having the penetrated partner on the edge of the bed is also great if you both enjoy powerful thrusts
An edge-of-the-bed sex position can also feel especially naughty because of the lack of body-to-body contact. Although intimacy can be wonderful and an important part of sex, there's an exciting feeling that comes from both partners just enjoying the lustful penetration with no hugging, kissing, or eye contact.
3. Missionary
Missionary position doesn't feature on many lists of different sex positions because it's often seen as the default for sex. Despite this, it works especially well for people with an especially tall partner because of the comfort and closeness it offers regardless of height.
Despite this, it works especially well for people with an especially tall partner because of the comfort and closeness it offers regardless of height.
To get in position, your partner should lie on her back with her legs open. By laying on top and positioning your hips just lower than hers, you can penetrate her and use your arms and legs as leverage as you thrust into her.
What makes this position great?
Missionary is a fantastic position for body-to-body contact and the sensual, loving feeling that creates. Women often say this position feels especially good because of the skin-to-skin contact and weight involved with having someone on top of them.
If your heads are at different heights when your hips are aligned, kissing might not be an option - but that doesn't mean that mouths have nothing to do. She can kiss your neck, chest, or nipples, depending on what's comfortable for you both - and you can reach under her and hold her head against you for an even greater feeling of closeness.
Missionary is a fantastic position for body-to-body contact and the sensual, loving feeling that creates
Of course, you can also mix missionary sex up too. A pillow under her hips works well if you'd like to play with different angles. You might even decide to lift her legs upwards by putting them over your arms or - if she's feeling flexible - over your shoulders. This can make for even deeper penetration and a better angle for hitting her G-spot.
4. Corkscrew
As the name suggests, the Corkscrew position involves some twisting for the receiving partner - creating a new and exciting intimate position that's ideal for couples with one partner significantly taller than the other.
Getting into position is a little trickier than some of the other positions on this list - but the end result makes it well worth the effort!
Start with the receiving partner flat on their back. Then, you should straddle one of her thighs, lifting the other one in front of you. She can then twist her upper body toward the side you're straddling and wrap her other leg around your back. When you've assumed the position, you can then slip inside her, holding her leg around you as you thrust.
What makes this position great?
Regardless of height, the corkscrew is a great way to get deep penetration for any penis size. The twisting motion will also mean you're making contact with the G-spot in ways it may not have been stimulated before - which can be a huge turn-on for your partner.
Because of the positions you both take - you more upright and her more flat to the bed - it's a perfect way for couples of different heights to maintain eye contact as you have sex. If you're tired of positions where you don't have this level of intimacy, the corkscrew is a perfect position to try.
the corkscrew is a great way to get deep penetration for any penis size.
Also, let's not forget the view. From your position above your partner, you can look directly at her - or look down and see your penis penetrating her. Since she has a hand free, she might even take the opportunity to masturbate while you're inside her - which can be a huge turn-on to watch.
5. The Wheelbarrow
The wheelbarrow position takes doggy style to new heights - both physically and from a stimulation point of view. It might look like the kind of thing that's reserved for porn movies - but it's actually not nearly as complicated or difficult as it looks.
There are different ways of getting into the wheelbarrow position. You might decide to start in a doggy position, then slowly stand up, holding your partner's thighs as you do. Since most of the strength comes from your legs, this isn't as hard as it might sound.
Then again, you could start in a similar position but with your partner's chest against the bed. This means there's even less weight to lift - and when you're in position, you can support her to lift her body weight with her arms.
The wheelbarrow position takes doggy style to new heights - both physically and from a stimulation point of view.
When you're standing, and she's holding some of her weight on her arms, she can steady herself by gripping your torso with her legs, and you can support her weight by holding her hips.
What makes this position great?
The Wheelbarrow is a great position for a couple of different heights because there's so much room for adjustment. Your partner can bend or extend her arms to bring her vagina to the best height for you both. Equally, you can bend your legs a little to make sure you're at the right penetration height too.
Admittedly, this position takes a little stamina from both parties if you're unsupported - but there's no reason you can't position your partner over the side of a sofa or use other props to reduce the strength needed too.
The Wheelbarrow is a great position for a couple of different heights because there's so much room for adjustment.
Aside from practicalities, sex in the Wheelbarrow position feels fantastic too. The angle you enter at will often work perfectly for G-spot stimulation - and the effort needed to maintain the position will often mean your partner's vagina feels especially tight wrapped around you too.
6. Side 69
You might think that taller people are just generally longer and larger than shorter people, but that isn't always the case. For lots of people, it's longer legs that make up a lot of height difference. If you're looking for a non-scientific but great fun way to try this theory out, a Side-69 position is the perfect answer!
Start by laying opposite each other but one person facing down the bed with the other partner facing up. Now, have your partner open her legs and position your head so your tongue can explore her clitoris and vulva. It's not essential that you go first - but since your penis is likely to be more flexible, it makes sense to find your position first.
The beauty of a Side 69 is that both of you can adjust your position to make sure your partner's mouth is in the right place, and they can move as they need to.
Now, your partner can make sure her mouth reaches the right spot too. The beauty of a Side 69 is that both of you can adjust your position to make sure your partner's mouth is in the right place, and they can move as they need to. Since neither of you is propping yourself up on your legs in this position, height difference matters a lot less.
What makes this position great?
If you're a fan of receiving oral sex - and let's face it, most of us are - then any 69 position is very much a win-win. Also, it's extremely adaptable for people of different heights too - so it's fairly easy to get into a position that works even if you usually tower over your partner.
In some cases, it might not be possible for you both to reach each other genitals with your mouths - but that's where sex toys can really bring this position to life. If it's not possible for her to position her mouth comfortably, a male masturbator could add some stimulation for you. Then again, if you can't get yourself comfortable, you might decide to swap your tongue for a vibrator or dildo to make sure she's getting her kicks too.
In the absence of sex toys, you can even switch to mutual masturbation if your tongue gets tired. Using your fingers to stimulate your partner's clit or her using her hands with a squirt or two of lube makes this close-up position even more flexible.
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Sex tips for couples with a height difference
While these positions will hopefully help you to have great sex regardless of your height difference, they're not the only factors to think about. Take a look at other top tips for sexual partners of different heights:
Get creative with your environment
Height differences can be easily overcome if you're willing to embrace your surroundings. Look at furniture and surfaces in new ways:
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Sofas, counters, and tables can be used for support and height adjustment.
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Steps and staircases provide multiple levels for both standing and seated positions.
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Pillows and cushions can offer a comfortable boost under hips, knees, and elbows.
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Bathroom fittings can give shorter partners a height boost (but be careful!)
Adapt classic positions
Just because one of you is taller than the other, it doesn't mean classic positions are out of the question - you just have to adapt!
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The spooning position can work perfectly if the taller partner adjusts their body angle or the smaller partner uses a pillow under their midsection for better alignment.
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A pair of high-heels can make a lot of difference if you'd like to try standing positions - and can add a little role-play fun too.
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The cowgirl position can also work perfectly for partners of different heights - and you can sit up as she's riding you to help equalize your height for kissing and eye contact.
Explore non-penetration positions too
A height difference is less of a problem if you're not trying to keep your genitals in contact - so explore alternatives to mix things up!
Many of us are conditioned to believe that 'sex' is really just another word for penetration - but this really isn't the case. Non-penetrative positions might include having your partner sit on your lap, rubbing against each other in the spooning position, or even exploring other parts of your partner's body with your fingers or mouth.
A height difference is less of a problem if you're not trying to keep your genitals in contact - so explore alternatives to mix things up!
Mutual masturbation is another fantastic alternative to penetrative sex - especially if you want to kiss, keep eye contact, or watch each other. Equally, sex toys can be an amazing addition if you find your height difference makes some positions awkward but still want to feel the sensations of penetration.
Communication is key
As with all sex play, communication is essential - and it's especially the case if you have a height difference. It's not enough to just assume or guess what might work best - instead, talking about boundaries, comfort, and what feels good will be the thing that really makes for satisfying sex.
As with all sex play, communication is essential - and it's especially the case if you have a height difference.
Whether you're the taller or the shorter partner, it's also important to look for non-verbal communication too - shared looks, responsive touches, and understanding each other's body language is also important. Not everyone feels comfortable talking about what's right for them before, during, or after sex - but by asking and listening, you can create an intimate space that will lead to even better sex going forward.
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Best sex positions for height difference: A summary
Height differences might feel like a hurdle to great sex - but they don't have to be. Rather than sticking to positions that have worked with other partners in the past, you might decide to explore some alternatives that work especially well for partners with a height difference.
This includes:
- Modified doggy style
- Receiver on the edge of the bed
- Missionary
- Corkscrew
- The Wheelbarrow
- Side-69
Don't think of this list of the best sex positions for height difference as being prescriptive though - there's a lot more to great sex than just finding a good angle of entry!
Experiment with non-penetrative positions, get creative with your environment, adapt classic positions, and make sure you communicate your desires, likes, dislikes, and boundaries - and you're well on your way to fantastic orgasms together, regardless of height!