4 Prostate Massage Ideas to Try With Your Partner

Massaging your prostate can trigger out-of-this-world orgasms (like what G-spot stimulation does for women).

However, the rectal lining is pretty sensitive.

That’s why it’s vital that you know how to give (or receive) a prostate massage properly.

Incorporating male prostate massagers can make the experience even more exciting. As "R" found out, toys can make the experience more comfortable and rewarding than fingers alone.

Today, we discuss some prostate massage techniques that you can try out with your partner.

Use Different Fingers for the Prostate Massage

There are several prostate massage techniques, all of which involve using fingers.

The Brown-James Technique

The Brown-James technique is a popular prostate massage method that involves using fingers to hit the right spot without penetration. To properly execute this technique, follow these steps:

• Step 1: Have your partner put their middle, index, and ring fingers together.
• Step 2: With these fingers, push into your perineum.
• Step 3: Have them stimulate the region using firm but gentle strokes to excite your prostate.
• Step 4: Employ rubbing techniques that you both feel comfortable with (such as combining clockwise and counter-clockwise movements, using numbered strokes, or touching the penis and scrotum areas while massaging).

Once again, communication will be vital throughout the entire process.

Even if you've already agreed on what you can or cannot do beforehand, it's important to tell each other what feels good or uncomfortable along the way. If you want to get creative with the massage, make sure your partner is okay with your ideas.

The Doorbell Technique

The Doorbell technique involves penetration and direct contact with the prostate. Have your partner rest the pad of their index finger against the prostate and gently press the gland as though it were a doorbell.

For a more exciting sensation, vary the pressure and the interval length between holding and pressing. Experiment until you get the rhythm that excites you best.

The Come-Hither Method

The Come-Hither method involves your partner inserting their lubricated index finger into your anus while curling it upwards toward your belly button.

The method derives its name from the "come-hither" movement the massager makes with their finger.

Your partner can alter the frequency of the finger's movement and gradually increase their momentum to build pressure.

Incorporate Toys While Massaging the Prostate

Using sex toys for prostate massage makes it easy to vary motions.

Sex toys typically have various vibration and pressure settings, all designed to give you a powerful orgasm.

If you want to ease the hassle of shopping for top-quality prostate massagers (those manufactured from premium materials), The Enhanced Male is your shop.

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Vary the Pressure

Changing and controlling the massage pressure when using sex toys is easy, even for those trying them for the first time.

Try pressing and releasing the toy against the P-spot until you locate the sweet spot.

With practice and a suitable toy, you too can enjoy intense pleasure, as Sean found out.

Vary the Penetration Depth

Some toys’ designs enable them to reach deeper than your fingers can. If depth is what you crave, then try a few different anal sex toys until you find the one that satisfies you.

Try Different Vibration Speeds

Toys can achieve vibration frequencies that you might never manage using your fingers. Once your partner places the lubricated toy in position, they can play with the different vibration settings (and increase the frequency of the vibrations as you near orgasm).

Try Different Prostate Massage Positions

Trying different positions while massaging the prostate can intensify pleasure and make it easier to reach orgasms. You can use these positions for both internal and external massages—alone or with your partner.

The Legs-Up Position

To practice this position with your partner, follow the steps below:

• Step 1: Lie on your back.
• Step 2: Pull both legs upwards toward your chest and hold them up using your hands.
• Step 3: Your partner can then kneel in front of you and begin massaging your prostate externally, internally, or both at the same time.

The Face-Down Position

The Face-Down position involves the following steps:

• Step 1: Lie flat on your stomach and spread your legs and arms slightly apart.
• Step 2: Have your partner sit beside you on either side (or the side you find more comfortable).
• Step 3: Your partner can begin massaging your prostate gently (or according to your preference) internally or externally.

The Doggy Position

For this style, follow these two steps:

• Step 1: Get on all your fours.
• Step 2: Your partner can then kneel behind you and begin massaging your prostate.

The Sideways Position

For the sideways position, you can use either hands, toys, or both.

• Step 1: Lie on your side.
• Step 2: Pull your top leg upwards towards your chest.
• Step 3: Your partner can then sit behind you where they can easily reach your anus.

Preparation is Crucial before Trying These Ideas

Although spontaneous sexual activities can be exciting, surprises don't always yield desired results—especially for those who don't like them.

Preparing the mind and body for this event is crucial.

Similarly, preparation is critical before a prostate massage since the anal area doesn't stretch as much as the vagina, and it doesn't self-lubricate.

Lack of proper lubrication can take away the pleasure from any sexual activity, particularly for the recipient.

Here are a few activities to prepare your mind and body for the experience to come.

Embrace Hygiene

Hygiene begins with washing your hands with water and soap. Any hand soap will do the job.

Next, though optional, slip on some latex gloves.

Gloves help to ensure that you don't transfer any anal bacteria to other parts of the body (such as the penis, vagina, or mouth) once you're done with the massage.

Long nails will need to be clipped to avoid hurting the rectal area. Moreover, shorter nails will make the after-session cleanup easier.

Relax Your Mind

Taking deep breaths will help both of you to feel relaxed. When the mind is relaxed, the anal sphincter will also relax, making it easier to penetrate.

The importance of relaxing before and throughout the entire process can never be over-emphasized.

The more relaxed you both are, the greater the pleasure you’ll experience.

Locate the Prostate

This step is essential because the success of the massage relies on locating this organ.

Knowing where it’s located and where to touch will help you both maximize pleasure.

The following video shows what to look for when locating your prostate.

Note that communication is vital as it will help both of you establish what you are comfortable doing. For instance, you should agree on whether:

• You prefer a lighter or firmer touch
• To use one or multiple fingers for stimulation
• You're comfortable with certain techniques or not

Prepare Your Sex Toys

Sex toys can make a prostate massage easier and more pleasurable.

You may want to have the toys ready and accessible, so you won't have to interrupt the massage to look for one.

If you've never had someone else massage your prostate, you may want to prepare yourself for the sensation by using sex toys (those that stimulate the perineum and anal areas).

To make things easier, lube up using water-based lubricants.

Lubricants will allow for easier stimulation regardless of whether you're massaging the prostate externally or internally.

Expert tip: An interesting thing about prostate massages is that they make the recipient feel like they have to urinate. Thus, it's a good idea to empty your bladder before a prostate massage.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What is a Prostate?

A prostate is a sensitive walnut-sized gland that lies below the penis, rectum, and bladder. Its sensitivity makes it pleasurable when stimulated.

Is Prostate Massage Only for Gay Men?

No, prostate massage is recommended for both straight and gay men. 

Why Do Prostate Massages Feel Pleasurable?

Prostate massage is pleasurable and can even lead to powerful orgasms because of the many nerve endings located around the prostate. When stimulated, these nerve endings make the muscles contract and expand, resulting in pleasure.